Letter not really surprising
To the editor:
As a senior citizen, I’ve been around, I’ve heard it all and I’ve seen it all. So, I wasn’t surprised to read Rob Denham’s letter of July 7 (“Accusations are a tiring game.”) His comments are typical and show he’s part of a patriarchy that has been ingrained with beliefs that men are superior and women are not to be believed, because they are lying, emotional, vindictive, opportunistic, money-grubbing temptresses.
I can’t believe I have to state things that have been stated so many times before. Why do women hesitate to come forward with their accusations against rapists and sexual harassers? Patriarchal societies with attitudes revealed by people like the writer set the stage for it. First, the pain of violation can be paralyzing. You find yourself in a situation that seems unreal. Did this terrible thing really happen to me? Then the fear sets in. Will anybody believe me? Am I going to be shamed? Did I wear something or say something that brought this on? Am I at fault because I wasn’t “modest” enough? Will I be punished for coming forward to speak against a powerful man?
With a set-up like that, it’s understandable that a woman would hesitate to report, but when another victim finally gets the strength to speak up, it can give her the courage to say “me, too.”
We sell all men short when we make claims that the victim’s behavior or clothes or whatever puts her attacker or harasser into a mode when he just can’t control his primal urges.
Sadly, much of this will be ignored by people with these attitudes. They’re probably too busy writing new letters of support for Jeffrey Epstein, Harvey Weinstein and Bill Cosby. Or maybe they’re out helping O.J. Simspon look for the real killer.