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Decisions, decisions we cannot make

December 9, 2012
By JANICE R. KIASKI - Herald-Star community editor ( , The Herald-Star

It's a wonder Better Half and I ever got married, considering we have such a tough time making decisions.

That applies to the big "I do" decision and all the little decisions, too. And everything else in between, truth be known.

Let's see

To keep things or pitch them.

To paint or wallpaper.

To move or stay put.

To dress up or dress down.

To go here or go there.

To buy this or buy that.

To eat in or eat out.

Now that's a really weighty issue that brings complications either way.

If we eat in, for example, it's what to fix.

"I don't know. What are you hungry for?" one of us begins the familiar inquiry that prompts the familiar response.

"I don't care. What are you hungry for?"

Here we go. It's a tennis match with no winner.

We could starve, given the rate of our non-deciding ways.

If we plan to eat out, however, it's more of the same.

It's deciding where to go to eat when we don't know what we're even hungry for in the first place.

Talk about challenging.

"Where do you want to go?" one of us poses the question invariably answered by a question.

"I don't know - where do you want to go?" comes the inevitable response.

Here we go again. More stomach growling here. And yet another tennis match.

Christmas adds to the layers of indecisiveness, especially in the present-purchasing department.

"Let's not buy gifts for each other this year," Better Half made the bold suggestion about a week ago, conveniently so since he's not a big shopping fan.

No Consumer of the Year Award for this guy.

"Don't you think we should get each other a little something?" I argued the point with such conviction, it produced the exact response I had expected: "I don't know - what do you think?"

The bottom line is we decided not to decide right away, even though I offered a course of action, that we spend no more than say $20 on each other, just to see how creative we could be and what we could come up with.

"I don't know," Better Half said with conviction, clearly in one of his I-can't-make-up-my-mind pre-Christmas moods, given we were in the midst of trying to decide when to put up the Christmas tree. And where.

I couldn't make my mind up either about the gift-giving thing, if it was a good idea or not, so I did what any indecisive good wife would do.

I've been going shopping, my theory to buy early and buy often the Christmas presents I know Better Half would want to get me if only he could make up his mind.

"I do" believe this is the way to go.

(Kiaski, a resident of Steubenville, is a staff columnist and features writer with the Herald-Star and The Weirton Daily Times and community editor for the Herald-Star. She can be contacted at

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